You know what really bugs me? The way people are snarking on Mariah Carey’s appearance (as in how she looked in her dress) at the Grammy Awards show. The woman has been nominated and won all sorts of awards for her voice and all we’ve got is, “she looks fat”
Cause seriously folks, if Mariah Carey is fat, what does that say for the rest of the women who aren’t Sarah Jessica Parker thin? And moreover, why does it matter?
Mariah Carey has enough issues to snark on rightfully (hello, she’s batshit crazy!) but I don’t understand why how fat she looks in a designer dress is helpful to either crazy Mariah or anyone else.
Cause let’s face it, women have enough shit to shovel when it comes to their bodies. Our breasts are too big or too small. Our stomachs aren’t flat enough, our asses aren’t J Lo perfect, legs too long or short, we’re too tall or short, hair too curly or straight. And fat, well fat is the cudgel that hits straight to the heart.
I’ve been thin and I’ve been fat. I have to say I had far fewer issues with my body when I was fat. I never had self image problems but that may be because I always felt desired by my partner. But now, the thinnest I’ve been since college, I find myself much more self aware about weight and body image than I’ve ever been. It’s odd to suddenly have this when I haven’t since I was twenty years old.
I feel responsible to write women that are of all shapes and sizes and to make their lives and their happiness not revolve around their jeans size. It’s a difficult line to walk and snarking about a celebrity looking fat when she’s obviously not (brittney spears too) just compounds the problem. Hell, most women work damned hard to look as thin as Mariah looks “fat” and I just don’t think we’re saying much positive about ourselves to make fun of it.