Off The Cuff
Mar
3
2006

You know, I often have no idea what to write until I open the window here and start typing. I know and here you all thought I was so organized (eye roll). But I often think of this blog as sort of a conversation with the people who read it. Many of them have blogs that I read too and comment on. It’s sort of a way of keeping in touch.

Which makes me think about the concept of community in general. For instance, as an author, I’m on a few author chat loops. It’s funny how each chat loop has its own personality but there are two of them that I absolutely love to participate on, I just click there I suppose. The authors are not constantly trying to one up each other and there’s real celebration for the successes that people earn as well as real sympathy and great advice when folks get rejections or suffer personal setbacks.

Without community, I’d shrivel up and die I think. Without my friends there to help me and give me advice and to say, “do your research before signing that” or “don’t submit there, they suck” or even “you rock” I’d live in isolation from the writing world.

And that’s so easy to do as a writer. Because I live in my head a lot. And my work is solitary quite often (except for research with my husband). So being able to reach out and be heard is important because it lets me know I’m not just talking to an empty room.

And so you see, I’m totally blathering and some days it’s obvious that the real meaning for “off the cuff” is “talking out of my ass” But here’s another blog entry down and now I have to make lunch for my kids and clean my kitchen. Because writing is all about the glamour.

Oh! One thing though, I just read in the EC newsletter that woman on top is a dumb sexual position. I totally disagree! I also disagree that the woman does all the work. I love that position, it’s a great position because it leaves all your best parts exposed to touching and kissing. Hmm, maybe I’ll write about sexual positions sometime…

4 comments to “Off The Cuff”

  1. Amelia June
    March 3rd, 2006 at 1:34 pm · Link

    Lesse, how do I feel about woman on top…bwahahahahahaha

    Clearly, they have not had proper training. Heh. And doing all the work? Oh, so good. Why should he get to have all the fun all the time?



  2. Faith
    March 4th, 2006 at 7:13 am · Link

    I so understand what you mean about sites or communities where authors–and writers in general–try to one up each other. I’ve left a couple such places because of that.



  3. Charlene Teglia
    March 4th, 2006 at 7:59 am · Link

    I like community, too. It’s the biggest and best surprise I’ve had since I started my blog. I didn’t expect it!

    I’m surprised anybody would make a generalization like that about ANY position. Everybody is built differently. There’s no one thing that works for everybody or every couple.



  4. Millenia Black
    March 4th, 2006 at 12:42 pm · Link

    That opinion sounds rather prudish, no? Woman on top is DUMB? Pfff. That person’s obviously not doing it right. 😉